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In Praise of Their Divorce

And when I heard about the divorce of my friends,
I couldn't help but be proud of them,

that man and that woman setting off in different directions,
like pilgrims in a proverb

-him to buy his very own toaster oven,
her seeking a prescription for sleeping pills.

Let us keep in mind the hidden forces 
which had struggled underground  for years

to push their way to the surface - and that finally did,
cracking the crust, moving the plates of earth apart,

releasing the pent-up energy required
for them to rent their own apartments,

for her to join the softball league for single mothers
for him to read George the Giraffe over his speakerphone

at bedtime to the six-year-old.

The bible says, Be fruitful and multiply

but is it not also fruitful to subtract and to divide?
Because if marriage is a kind of womb,

divorce is the being born again;
alimony is the placenta one them will eat;

loneliness is the name of the wet-nurse;
regret is the elementary school

endurance the graduation.
So do not say that they are splattered like dropped lasagna

or dead in the head-on collision of cliches
or nailed on the cross of their competing narratives.

What is taken apart is not utterly demolished.
It is like a great mysterious egg in Kansas

that has cracked and hatched two big bewildered birds.
It is two spaceships coming out of retirement,

flying away from their dead world,
the burning booster rocket of divorce falling off behind them,

the bystanders pointing at the sky and saying, Look.

~ from Unincorporated Persons in the Late Honda Dynasty by Tony Hoagland


gz said...


red dirt girl said...

xxx gz

bulletholes said...

Lokk at you! You did a post! Nice poem too! Wish I'd read it like 100 years ago.

red dirt girl said...

:) I did. That made me 3 more than Soub this year! Blogging isn't completely dead. Too long for fb. Besides, I figure the way fb goes, everyone would start assuming Soub and I were divorcing - ha. Wish I had read it all those years ago, too! Thanks for stopping by xxx

Lin said...

I like this. AND I'm glad you are blogging. I'm weary of FB and the short little blips here and there...plus all the photos of cats and political stuff. egads.